Have you ever seen a trend that you were convinced would not work on your body type? For me it was rompers/jumpsuits. I have what is called an "Apple" shaped body, which means I luckily get to carry all my weight in my stomach and if not dressed in flattering pieces, get asked when my baby is due. It's a real fun time.
I kept seeing the cutest rompers on everyone of all body types and last summer I went for it and actually loved the way that rompers looked. If you get the right one, it can be super flattering and comfortable. I was still kind of convinced that jumpsuits weren't for me, even after buying and loving like 4 different rompers. Then I saw this black jumpsuit on Modcloth and read the reviews and knew I had to own it. Guys, it feels like pajamas but makes you look like Beyonce. It is the most amazing thing I've ever owned and put on my body. It even has pockets, which all outfits should have, imo.
I will be the first to admit that I can tend to get stuck in really negative loops about my body. I think it's so easy to see your own flaws and feel like of course every other person you come in to contact with sees them, when really no one at all probably notices. I'm raising daughters and I never want them to have a negative body image, but it's a tough thing to fight against in the world we live in that places so much value on your looks and body.
I have stretch marks and rolls and have gained a little weight, but I also still look fly as hell almost all the time and none of those things have anything to do with the kind of person I am. I'm not defined by my looks and if I can pull of a jumpsuit of not (which I obviously can). I love taking outfit photos for the blog because it's a boost of self confidence every single time. It's an expression of my style and of who I am as a person. It can be a lot of work to change your mindset on your own body, but it's worth the work to not have the negative voice be as loud or influential as it's been in the past, at least for me personally.
I guess the lesson is, rock the jumpsuit and tell yourself everyday that you're a boss ass babe and no one can take that from you. I love these photos and I love my jumpsuit and I love my body. Body confidence is kind of like a work in progress to me. Sometimes I struggle but for the most part I know how awesome this body I have is.
Jumpsuit (Modcloth) / Vest (Target on clearance) / Shoes (old/only pair of heels I own) / Sunglasses (Forever 21-similar)
Ok, I know what you are thinking, how can a skinny girl have body confidence issues? Well friends, being skinny or thin definitely doesn't equal body confidence at all. As long as I can remember, I was the skinny girl. The shoe string. The anorexic girl. Been told to eat a sandwich. Or that I abuse drugs. The the itty bitty titty committee just got its newest member. I've had people talk about my weight as if being my size was just as alarming as being severely overweight or that I've done something to cause my size. I've done nothing, this is just me. We all come in different shapes and sizes.
I'm sure these off hand comments are not meant to have such lasting effects, but the truth is words hurt and can ruin body confidence before you even realize it is something of such importance.
I'll be the first to admit it, I am not a super confident person. I almost always feel awkward and out of place, especially in social situations. It can be really hard for me to come out of my shell and connect with others. I use fashion as a tool to help build up my body confidence. When I wearing a very "me" outfit, it really helps boost my confidence and helps me shine as a person. It tears away some of that silly baggage I hold onto and just helps me become a better me. It allows my inner silliness to come out instead of taking a back seat due to insecurities. Confidence comes in so many different forms, none of which are more important than others but of which are still all super important. It's a balancing act. Overall confidence is the dream goal.
As you know, I'm completely obsessed with Friends and the fashion from the 90s. I just find it so refreshing and different from some of the sexualized clothing of today. In season 1, Phoebe rocks and epic jumpsuit and I immediately became obsessed with jumpsuits (and overalls, but I digress). I bought one immediately and fell in love with how badass I felt wearing in. In fact, I now own 3 and am always looking to add more to my collection. At first, I didn't expect to love them so hard, but one-piece outfits are so easy to wear and style and I just feel fly as hell when I wear them. It is seriously an effortless look.
The girls on Friends are always tying their cardigans around their waist so obviously this has become my new thing. That and wavy braid hair.
I think the moral of my body confidence story is, yea, we don't always love our bodies or feel confident in general. But don't for a second think you are a lone ranger in your feelings. We all feel less confident about certain things for all kinds of reasons. Remember your words are powerful and should be used to build others up instead of tearing them down. Let your silliness out, love yourself and just enjoy life the way you are. And twirl. Twirling is the best.
Jumpsuit (Forever21) / Cardigan (Target) / Sandals (American Eagle)