Friday, September 28, 2018

Summer Summer Summer

I don't know about where you are, but I think summer might be done for here in Missouri. Maybe it's the fact that the literal first day of fall just happened or maybe it's that the temps are dropping little by little, but I'm here for it. I am ready to wrap myself in cozy cardigans and drink fall teas and pumpkin spice lattes all day every day. Fall is my season, Halloween is my favorite holiday, I'm  r e a d y  for it. 

I am glad that Jen and I got together for at least one more summer themed outfit photo sesh. If I'm being completely honest, I've lived in leggings and tshirts this summer. I work in an office with a very lax dress code & I mostly want to be comfortable. BUT if I'm ever going out with friends or on a date, I tend to gravitate towards this skirt, graphic tee, & converse combo. 

My current wardrobe is a mix of cute & casual. I like to think I would be more of a boho, floral, quirky print queen, but I don't think I'm there yet. Slowly but surely I'm going to get there though. For now, cute & casual & comfy works for my lifestyle. 

I'm feeling pretty good lately on where my mindset is with my body image & self confidence. It's a constant struggle, I'm always a work in progress, but I think it's getting better & easier. These photos make me feel so cute & cool, plus I had so much fun taking photos with Jen in front of the one wall we go to in her town for our classic "Blogger Brick Wall" photos. I think that can be enough for now. Feeling cute with your bestie is maybe the ultimate goals. 

Outfit Details 

Man, this summer has been a trip. I cling to the familiar and this summer has been anything but. Some life changes were forced upon me and it has been a summer of growth and independence. I was so used to things being done for me and plans being made for me that it has been liberating to realize that I'm the one in charge of this party.   

Like, it is a little embarrassing to admit, but I've hardly cooked myself a meal in the last 8 years. I didn't know how to meal plan or how to make a legit grocery list. There are so many domestic life lessons I've learned over the summer. This summer started out a little overwhelming for me but do you know what the outcome has been?

I've never been the most confident of people but learning how to "adult" this summer has taken me to a whole new confidence level. I feel like I second guess myself way less and that I'm comparing myself to others way less. I also feel like I'm allowing myself to be more open to adventures and doing things alone.

It's helped me realize I'm a strong ass lady and I can tackle most anything I put my mind to. Outfit doesn't fit properly - alter it.  Don't like the color of the living room walls - paint them.  Feeling tired of the same old meals - pinterest some new ones.  I feel like I've finally really taken control of my life. 

I feel like my new found confidence is coming through in these photos.  Maybe it's because this is one of my favorite summer looks. Maybe it's because I was chilling with my bestie and living my best life. Maybe it's a little of all of the above. 

Outfit Details
Top {Forever 21-sold out} / Jeggings {AE} / Sandals {AE}

Friday, September 14, 2018

Summer of the Jumpsuit

Who knew it would take us so long to post some new outfit photos. Our unintentional blog break was great, but I really did miss taking outfit photos with my bestie. It's creatively fulfilling and helps me remember what things I have in my closet that aren't getting enough love. 

It might be a little too early to call it, but it seems like fall is on it's way here in Missouri. The mornings have been cooler, it's less humid, I'm wearing jackets. It could definitely turn back around and be in the 90s again with 100% humidity, but I'm being optimistic that it's fall. This was part of the reason we wanted to showcase our favorite summer jumpsuits before it got cold and stayed that way. 

This jumpsuit is my dream outfit. It's my power color, it's got cute ruffle & eyelet details, & it was only $15 at Forever 21. So major fashion score for me. 

I will be honest and say when I first saw these photos, I did not love them. I've been deep in the emotional eating space recently & I was shocked to see how the jumpsuit looked on me, especially in the stomach area. I've been living in stretchy leggings recently, mostly because I did not want to see how bad I look in my regular clothes. I struggle constantly with tying my value as a human to the way I look in my clothes. It's like I know I have value & worth, but then feeling uncomfortable in my clothes makes me feel like I don't. It's really stupid. 

I'm in therapy twice a month, sometimes more. We talk a lot about my food issues and how to address them. We talk about how to stop thinking I only have value if I look a certain way. Obviously this is still a work in progress, but I'm embracing these photos of myself. I had fun with Jen this day. I love this jumpsuit. I am trying to focus on the good instead of the negative, which is probably me just being way too hard on myself. 

So here's to the summer of living in jumpsuits & also learning to be more kind to myself. Cheers to that. 

Have you missed us? I've definitely missed everything about blogging, but most particular outfit posts. They always inspire confidence and sometimes inspire me to put together outfits I wouldn't normally put together. Anytime I'm shopping, I always make sure to scour the clearance racks to see if there are any hidden jumpsuits on sale for a good price.

The older I get, the more I hate to pay full price for something.* Usually if I wait a couple of weeks a sale will run or I'll get a coupon code to use. Then in my mind, with the difference saved I can buy other goodies. I'm not going to lie, sometimes I miss out on items by waiting but usefully if proves fruitful. This jumpsuit was on the clearance rack at Target for $9. It was in my size but I could tell it was going to be wayyyy to long for me. By about a foot. Since I've experimented with making clothes in the past, I thought I would try to alter it myself.

I cut off a several inches on each leg and hemmed them. I was really worried about making the legs to short when honestly I probably could have taken it up another inch or two. I also adjusted the straps to make them fit tighter since they were a little loose. I spent about half an hour altering this outfit and I'm glad I took the time to do it. I could see myself wearing this out to brunch or shopping or really to any fun summer activity. Its comfy, cute and fits so much better than it did previously. 

Altering clothes is a little out of my comfort zone and isn't a project I would normally take on. Usually when I see something that would need altering, I'd just put it back on the rack and move on. I hate the thought of spending money on something that won't work and that I might destroy in the process of trying to make work.  I think this is inspiring me to slow down and evaluate things I'm contemplating purchasing to see if I can make it work even better for me if I take the time to do a little alteration.

*Please note, I'm not perfect and I do buy things at full price from time to time. Sometimes my lack of will power gets the best of me and I try not to feel bad when I do. We're all just on the same road to cuteness, yah know?

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

August Rewind

I've been in kind of a reading slump lately.  I haven't allowed myself a lot of down time lately and I think that might be the culprit.  However, I did get caught up on latest of the Archie comics - Volumes 1-5. I love the Riverdale world so much and I'm counting down until Riverdale comes back and the Chilling Adventures of Sabrina debuts.

I started watching the X-Files! I've seen so much fandom online and figured it would be my jam and it 100% is. I know I'm like 20 years late but this is one of the best shows out there. Plus, Fox Moulder reminds me of my all time old man crush, Richard Gere so its a win-win for me.

I've been all over the place lately. One of my favorite new podcasts I've discovered is Defrauded which is about fundamentalism specifically in the reality tv world. If you know anything about the Duggar or Bates families and love to listen to snark about them then this podcast is for you.

Also this month

Painted Living room
My house is old - like 100+ years. It has a lot of layers and is need of some serious redecoration and renovation. The living room was covered in wood paneling; some of which were covered in deer/wildlife print. Probably the ugliest paneling I've ever seen.  My husband had previously convinced me that painting it wasn't the best solution but I threw caution to the wind and painted it anyway. I went with a soft gray and painted the trim white. It was a lot of work, but I love it and I feel happy and content every time I'm in that room.

Paint Party
My sister has a pretty great side hustle. Her and her husband refashion furniture and make fun signs and such out of wood.  She invited me and my mom over for a girls paint day and we made front porch signs. Mine features cats, of course. I don't live in the greatest part of town so I was hesitant to put it on my porch so it greats me in my mud room. 

Weekend Routines
My husband has officially moved to weekends and I'm still figuring out my weekend routine. At first it felt really weird to spend so much time alone, but now it feels more normal and soothing. I've been getting a lot of things done and spending lots of time with friends. I do need to figure out a good weekend balance though. Lately I've been full steam ahead, making and crossing off massive to-do lists, working on house projects that by the time Monday comes around I'm exhausted. I think I need to make Sundays more of a relaxing day.

August was an amazing reading month for me. It helped that I went on my honeymoon and had an entire week to read by the pool/beach. Two of the stand outs would be The Anomaly & The Cheerleaders. Both were thrillers, but also completely different. The Anomaly felt like a mix of a ghost hunter type reality show & the movie The Descent. Super weird & creepy & mysterious. The Cheerleaders was more of a straight up thriller/horror novel. I finished it in one day and was hooked as soon as I picked it up. 

August was a slower tv/movie month for me. I have not had time to watch a lot, mostly Bachelor in Paradise, which is my favorite reality show. It's just crazy, dramatic fun. I did also talk Jarrett into watching Fast Five on our honeymoon so that was fun. I was definitely more into it than him, but who cares. Memories right? 

One of my favorite podcasts, My Dad Wrote a Porno, premiered season 4 at the end of the month. I spent a few weeks listening to older episodes so I could remember exactly where we left Belinda. I forgot how much this podcast makes me laugh. Most of my commutes were spent laughing until I cried, which honestly is maybe the best way to spend a 3 hour daily commute. 

Also this month
Six Flags 
The girls had free Six Flags tickets they earned from reading at school that expired right before we left on our honeymoon, so we took a Friday and spent that day in the heat there. It was actually a blast. It wasn't super busy, we didn't really have to wait in long lines, and Morgan was amazingly brave and went on The Fireball, which goes upside down (pictured above). It was such a fun time to spend together as a family. I can't wait to go back next year.

Jarrett & I went on our delayed honeymoon to Puerta Vallarta Mexico. We stayed at Secrets Vallarta Bay, an adults only all inclusive. It was my first time out of the country & I fell in love with Mexico & all inclusives. I am planning to write a whole post about it with a ton of photos, but it was the most relaxing vacation I've ever been on. I can't wait to do it again.

Back to School 
Emily & Morgan are officially in 3rd grade. Lately they seem to look super grown up. They have all these plans & ideas & just seem like tiny adults, less like my tiny babies. I can't wait to see what this year has in store for them. 

Sunday, September 9, 2018

September Small Goals

I don't know about you, but I've been feeling a ton of cleansing vibes lately. Maybe it's the rainy weekend that brought this fall chill into the air, maybe it's just the changing of the seasons. I feel this pull to really organize and purge things that aren't working for me any longer. I think this is reflected in a lot of my small goals. I'm excited to get back into setting intentional goals each month with my bestie. What goals are you working on this month? 

Jen's September Small Goals
1. Decorate for Halloween.  It takes everything in my being not to decorate for Halloween in August. I know, I'm one of those people.  Halloween is my favorite and I can't wait to surround myself in my Halloween d├ęcor.
2. Finish WIPs. I forever have a stack of work in progress crafts. When I finish a stage of a project it simply moves from one WIP pile to the next.  I've got about 4 cross stitch projects, in particular, that I would like to finish and turn into the final project.
3. Fix Drywall Cracks.  I've been on a home repair/remodeling kick lately. In the last month, I've painted both my living room and my upstairs bathroom.  Both were covered in hideous paneling and both rooms have been transformed by a can of paint. I can't emphasize this enough, when in doubt definitely paint it. Anyway, my husband started remodeling a room (9 years ago-ahhhhh!) and I'm going to get my hands dirty fixing up a few drywall cracks so it can be prepped for painting. Hopefully I don't get distracted with removing the gross carpet upstairs and scraping the glue off the original hardwood. I could this going in so many different directions this month.
4. Yearly Sampler Catch Up.  I do a cross stich yearly sampler every year (its tradition at this point).  I'm about 2 months or so behind on it so my goal is to get caught up with the exceptions of the borders. The project is jungle themed so its a pretty adorable stitch.
5. Goldie Vance Marathon.  I recently ordered the next 3 volumes of the Goldie Vance comics and I plan on devouring them this month.  I'll probably reread the first comic in the process. I need more of this sassy detective in my life.

Heather's Small Goals
1. Sign up for workout classes I've been working through the best way for me to workout and I think giving classes a try is my next adventure. There are some kickboxing classes at a local gym close to my house or a gym with lots of interesting classes by where I work. The hardest thing is finding the time to make it happen.
2. Finish at least one knitting project I have a few projects sitting around in my extra room taking up space. Another one of my small goals is to organize my extra room so finishing up these projects is a win/win.
3. Track my money I am working on being more intentional with a lot of things in my life. Exercising, eating, & how I spend my money. I want to keep track of how much money I spend this month and make sure I'm really honoring that goal.
4. Find some new lunch recipes I feel like all my goals this month are kind of related. I've been eating out more than I'd like for lunch during the work week. I am kind of bored with frozen dinners so I want to find some easy, delicious, healthy-ish recipes that I can bring for lunch.
5. Organize my extra room Our extra room has become a catch all sort of place. Like the room in Harry Potter with all the junk piled up in it. That's our extra room. I want to do the best I can to organize it without purchasing anything. That means lots of decluttering, donating, and trashing things I don't need any more.

Sunday, September 2, 2018

September Book Club

And we are back baby! It's been a long summer. We relaxed and took a blogging break but here we are with more books & outfits & life stuff that we know you missed. 

First up, September's book club pick! Jen took the reigns this month and suggested we read Undead Girl Gang by Lily Anderson. I bought this one a few months ago, and like most of my books, it's sat on my shelves unread ever since. I was so excited Jen picked this book. It seems like the perfect read to ease in to fall. Let's all read about lady friendships with a silly, creepy twist ok? 

What's it about? 

Meet teenage Wiccan Mila Flores, who truly could not care less what you think about her Doc Martens, her attitude, or her weight because she knows that, no matter what, her BFF Riley is right by her side. So when Riley and Fairmont Academy mean girls June Phelan-Park and Dayton Nesseth die under suspicious circumstances, Mila refuses to believe everyone's explanation that her BFF was involved in a suicide pact. Instead, armed with a tube of lip gloss and an ancient grimoire, Mila does the unthinkable to uncover the truth: she brings the girls back to life.

Unfortunately, Riley, June, and Dayton have no recollection of their murders. But they do have unfinished business to attend to. Now, with only seven days until the spell wears off and the girls return to their graves, Mila must wrangle the distracted group of undead teens and work fast to discover their murderer...before the killer strikes again.